Feng Shui for a Happy
Marriage
Feng Shui is a collection of knowledge that gives detailed methods
for arranging homes, both inside and out. It is a very old Chinese
practice that is based upon obtaining the most auspicious luck
from the earth, by aligning oneself with the 'chi' (or natural
energy) of the environment. Apart from ensuring that the energy
within the home is not 'blocked', the Chinese are also aware of
the good energy that comes from symbolic symbols, such as good
luck characters and pictures.
There are various areas of life that Feng Shui can assist,
primarily these are Career, Schooling, Health, Wealth, Reputation,
Romance and Marriage, Children, and Helpful People. The assurance
that Feng Shui gives is that with proper application these areas
can be enhanced, so as to bring especially good luck. Each area
listed above corresponds with an area of the house that is being
considered. There are different Feng Shui systems, but personally
I have found the compass method to be the most exact and
beneficial. The compass area for the Romance and Marriage sector
is the Southwest, and it is this area that should be enhanced for
romance luck. Use a standard (boy scouts!) compass to determine
where this area is in your home. You can also enhance the
Southwest of your living room and bedroom.
However, moderation is key to Feng Shui, as the Chinese believe
that a careful balance between Yin (negative/dark) and Yan
(positive/light) forces should be sought. Therefore, it is
important not to overdo Feng Shui. It is best to introduce perhaps
one or two of the symbols into the area, and await the results
before adding more or changing the symbols.
Each Feng Shui sector corresponds to an element, such as earth,
metal, water, wood and fire. The element for the Southwest is
earth, and since earth is produced by fire in the so-called
'productive cycle' of Feng Shui, either element can be used as an
enhancement. Because earth produces metal, which is said to
'exhaust' the earth element, it is prudent to avoid putting
metallic objects in this sector. This is a very simplistic
overview of the elements cycle, and you may want to investigate
the subject further. I would especially recommend any books by
Lillian Too, an eminent writer on the subject.
There are many excellent 'energisers' for the Southwest and these
include:
Crystals - any raw crystal is exceptional in this area, but
particularly popular is Rose Quartz, as it is said to be a
harmonious stone that attracts love. Manmade lead crystals are
excellent, especially when suspended in front of a window in the
area, since this brings in excellent chi in the form of rainbows.
Glass paperweights are another popular item, which can also be
positioned in the Southwest corner of your workdesk.
Lights - represent fire, which boosts the earth element, and of
course since chandeliers, which are made of crystal glass combine
both earth and fire elements, they are very potent. Other than
that most lights, but particularly those with red lampshades, are
auspicious, although personally I would steer away from metal desk
or floor lamps in this area.
Earth Objects - since the Earth itself is a rounded object, round
decorative pots such as ginger jars are deemed to be auspicious.
Alternatively, glass or ceramic vases can be used.
Globes - a globe depicting the Earth is very lucky and should be
spun at least once a day to concentrate its wonderful energy.
Colours - you can also use either earth or fire tones, such as
brown, terracotta or reds to enhance this area. Introduce these
colours in your furnishings, such as curtains or cushions. Red is
very good in the bedroom, since this is the colour of passion. If
this shade is too intense for you, consider peach or pink instead.
Candles - one tip that I have found very useful is to fill a glass
or ceramic bowl with pebbles or glass nuggets, and then place two
candles (carefully balanced) on top. Light the candles to attract
love. It is important to note that it is not enough just to have
candles on display - they must be lit! Red candles would be most
propitious. Please ensure you do not leave candles unattended.
Symbols - there are many symbols that can be used, but those most
favoured by the Chinese are a pair of mandarin ducks, the peony
and, most especially, the double happiness sign. It is important
to think in terms of 'pairs' in this corner, three mandarin ducks
displayed could introduce another person into the equation! If you
are unable to find ducks, then try geese, swans or lovebirds,
either in ceramic form or pictures.
You can use either silk peonies or pictures, but please note that
once the romance and marriage is settled it is time to remove the
painting. This is because the peony is said to enhance the man's
ardour and we don't want that getting out of hand to cause
straying! You can use your imagination in the area of symbols, so
introduce pictures of a happy couple, love hearts or any symbol
that has particular meaning for you - just make sure it is a
positively happy image.
The double happiness sign can be incorporated into a frame just by
itself, or perhaps painted onto a large pebble. If you are feeling
particularly creative, perhaps you could make up a stencil and
paint a border around the room, or sew the symbol onto cushions.
Pictures - as well as the symbols mentioned above, an actual
picture of the earth, or mountains, would be deemed very
favourable.
Windchimes - can be successfully be used in the Southwest - but
they must be ceramic! Remember that metal exhausts earth, so metal
windchimes are to be avoided at all costs.
Things to Avoid
· Mirrors facing the bed are considered a big 'no-no', since it
is believed these cause infidelity and marriage break-ups.
· Anything that 'divides' the couple symbolically, such as
separate mattresses underneath, or beams above.
· If you display roses in this area please ensure they are the
thornless variety.
· Avoid water in the bedroom at all costs - aquariums or pictures
of water scenes are harmful.
Do enjoy Feng Shui but remember the golden rule - don't overdo it!
Further reading:
Feng Shui Fundamentals Love - Lillian Too -
168 ways to success - Lillian Too -
Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui - Karen Kingston -
The Western Guide to Feng Shui - Terah Kathryn Collins -
Plan your home with Feng Shui - Ian Bruce - Quantum
Ruth Orvis is an experienced hypnotherapist and life-coach
practising in Somerset, England. As well as running a successful
hypnotherapy business (InnerHelp), in her spare time Ruth writes
for various magazines and websites on many alternative health
subjects, including hypnotherapy, humanistic psychology, as well
as astrology, which she has studied for over twenty years. Having
been brought up in Malaysia, Ruth retains a keen interest in feng
shui and Eastern symbology.
Article kindly provided by Ruth Orvis
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